What is happiness?
Where does it come from?
Are we ever completely happy?
Is it possible?
As I get older I think I am starting to see what happy is. It would never have been possible to see when I was young. I am getting close to 40 now (......oh crap) surely some of that wiseness that comes with age should come soon, yeh?
I think there are different levels of happiness, different sorts go into different categories.
The instant happiness...for example.... ohhhh chocolate YUMMY!! or OMGosh check out those shoes and I can afford them! Oh what a beautiful flower in my garden!
The medium happiness - the kind that comes from when your days go smoothly, no cars breakdown or washing machines flood the laundry. Your plans are slowing working their way to fruition.
And the the large happiness that comes from having great relationships with your husband, children, family and friends. A home that safe and warm.
But, just because you have one type of happiness in your life doesn't mean you really feel it?
I am starting to see you need a blend of all 3 varieties.
I think this is how people become envious of others and their happinesses (I might have made that word up!)...She has a great house and a drop dead sexy husband so she has the life, but not necessarily so. Her days may be agonisingly boring and she is miserable.
But to make it even more complicated I think we have to make the choice to be happy. That's not as easy as it sounds.
I have been contemplating the last few years of my life. They have been rough. Could I have made them easier if I had chosen happiness over sadness?
Instead of mourning the loss of a dear man I only got to love for a short time, could I have rejoiced that I had the chance to be his daughter even if it wasn't for long?
When my new husband had a stroke, could I have felt happiness that he survived rather than the sorrow I did feel?
There are so many pieces of the happiness life puzzle, an edge piece here that fits well, a turn of this piece, moving another piece...is the picture of the puzzle right for you?
So I think that life is all about choosing how we see things, how we react. Tweaking the pieces that don't quite fit, finding little bits of all the types of happiness that can be found in our lives, being patience and calm while your figuring out your picture.....
I had a very happiness day today with all the variety of happinesses...
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A visit to the Echuca winter blues festival |
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A visit to the Holden Museum to look at some beautiful cars |
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This one was my favourite, I used to drive a red HJ panelvan....pre kids of course! |
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The new and the old |
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yummies at Beechworth Bakery in Echuca |
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All with one of my biggest happinesses! |
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We did also visit the market of my friend Cath
Little Birdy Markets but of course I was so busy looking at all the handmade goodness I forgot to take pictures.....!!
So I declare today a happiness success!
What are your thoughts? What makes you happy?
Jacq :)
(BTW I have purposely left out any reference to children and their affect on our happiness, thats just way to complicated!!)